The Mothers Support Group, "Bereaved Families of Ontario"
About 8 months after Matthew died, I was able to participate in a closed Mothers Support Group with Bereaved Families of Ontario/Hamilton-Burlington Chapter. I traveled from Simcoe area to Burlington every week for 12 weeks to meet with other moms whose child had died in recent months or years.
The first week I was extremely nervous, having no idea what to expect. But the facilitators, also bereaved moms, were so compassionate and welcoming that this time became the most comforting oasis in the midst of a dark and difficult time.
I can't say enough about how valuable this group became to me; being able to share with other moms the rollercoaster of feelings and the emotional pain that just wouldn't let up at all. This group gave me what I needed most at that time - HOPE!
These moms and I stay connected and still meet now and again for coffee or a meal.
Since then, I have completed the Facilitator Training and continue to volunteer with the mothers support groups in Simcoe Ontario.
For more information:
Centre for Loss in Fort Collins, Colorado
Dr. Alan Wolfelt founded this centre, he is a Bereavement Educator and has authored several books on Grief and Mourning.
For valuable information and to order his books, please visit his website.
Dr. Wolfelt talks about Companioning the bereaved. After studying with him and learning more about it, I strive to incorporate many of the companioning principles into the mothers retreat weekend.
Robin Botie Blog
Beyond Closure Video
A beautifully articulated description of the myth of closure.
Nancy explains the reality of what "closure is and is not", especially to those of us "moms" who do not see closure as an option; that closure really doesn't exist. Her words brought me comfort and an understanding of my anger when people said to me, "it's time to move on", or, "it's been long enough", or "you need to do such and such for closure".
In my experience, there is no such thing because closure would be equivalent to saying that my son Matthew never existed. I appreciate that people say these things in an effort to help us moms to "feel" better"...... that perhaps this term entitled closure' will ease our pain. Or, maybe it helps others be more comfortable with their own pain as they watch their beloved friend, spouse, sister, daughter hurting so deeply.
The reality is, it is not about the person trying to do the soothing; what helps is to try and be right there in her pain with her.... we know this is very hard to do, however, being able to do this is a true gift to give a bereaved mom.
Check out Nancy's video. I found her to be real, honest and sensitive, AND what she says makes complete sense to me -- from one bereaved mom to another.
is a bereaved mother. Her son Matthew died suddenly in August 2009 at the age of 27 as a result of complications from addictions. Kimberly had been involved in meditation and alternative health modalities long before the tragic loss of her son, and now uses her knowledge and wellness background to offer a place for other moms who are bereaved. She does this as a give back or pay it forward; this is a not for profit offering, and she is always seeking practitioners who will donate their time to the moms.
Please contact Kimberly at:
Phone: +1 519 909 9644
The next retreat is scheduled for mid September Date TBA.
(The June retreat date has been postponed to September.)
Please contact Kimberly to register as space is limited.
Welcome ALL mothers who are bereaved. There is no time frame on our grief, whether your loss was long ago or recent. Each of us has experienced the death of a child.
We gather together to support, gain strength and provide comfort. Please do not hesitate to contact me for a chat and learn more about who I am, what this is all about, and discuss if this is good timing for you.