A weekend of care and comfort
A weekend of care and comfort


A beautifully articulated description of the myth of closure.


Nancy explains the reality of what "closure is and is not", especially to those of us "moms" who do not see closure as an option; that closure really doesn't exist. Her words brought me comfort and an understanding of my anger when people said to me, "it's time to move on", or, "it's been long enough", or "you need to do such and such for closure".


In my experience, there is no such thing because closure would be equivalent to saying that my son Matthew never existed. I appreciate that people say these things in an effort to help us moms to "feel" better"...... that perhaps this term entitled closure' will ease our pain. Or, maybe it helps others be more comfortable with their own pain as they watch their beloved friend, spouse, sister, daughter hurting so deeply.


The reality is, it is not about the person trying to do the soothing; what helps is to try and be right there in her pain with her.... we know this is very hard to do, however, being able to do this is a true gift to give a bereaved mom.


Check out Nancy's video. I found her to be real, honest and sensitive, AND what she says makes complete sense to me -- from one bereaved mom to another.





TEDxDesMoines - Nancy Berns - Beyond Closure - YouTube

Aug 8, 2012 - Uploaded by TEDxTalks
Nancy Berns is a sociologist at Drake University. She looks at the space between grief and closure and has ...

Contact Kimberly

Kimberly Ryan is a bereaved mother. Her son Matthew died suddenly in August 2009 at the age of 27 as a result of complications from addictions. Kimberly had been involved in meditation and alternative health modalities long before the tragic loss of her son, and now uses her knowledge and wellness background to offer a place for other moms who are bereaved. Please contact Kimberly at:


Phone:     +1 519 909 9644       



Email: ryankimberly1023@gmail.com




Dates of Upcoming Weekend Retreats


The next retreat is scheduled for May 25, 26, 27th and October 26,27,28th, 2018..


Please contact Kimberly to register as space is limited.

Welcome ALL mothers who are bereaved. There is no time frame on our grief., if your loss was longer ago or recent. Each of us has experienced the death of a child. We gather together to support, gain strength and provide comfort. Please do not hesitate to contact me for a chat and learn more about who I am, what this is all about, and discuss if this is good timing for you.


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